When married man travels with single woman becomes society fault

I have always wanted to blog about E, my university friend from UK, a gal from Mars who is so so out of this world with the rest of us humans. At the grand age of 34, her quest for the HG LOVE has never been lucky. So many men had brushed past her, without so much as a glance but she is still very hopeful, which I think is amazing given the experiences she had with them.

Yesterday, after a very long drought of not msning me (as I couldn't be bothered with all her nonsense) came her tales.

(have edited to remove names for confidentiality purposes)

E : i'm thinking of either joining a convent or getting a job out of s'pore. Chris say i must have the calling lor
Catflying : convent? do what?
E : serve the Lord, practice cathalism
Catflying says: i thought u r christian?
i suggest before u do anything silly. go see a doc.
E : see a doc, why
Catflying says: doc = shrink.
Catflying says: to sort out ur thoughts.
E : doc will not help on this. they are like consellor only
E : listen not give advice
E : only religious leader can help
Catflying says: yup. but thru listening will be able to help u sort out ur problems
E : i dont have a problem
Catflying says: that is THE problem
E : i just dont wan to be in s'pore where they pressurise u to get married lah and that type of crap
E : if i serve God then all will go away
E : or stay away from s'pore society
E : in USA no body bother if u are married
E : except the s'porean gals
E : they are the ones that are crazy and need doc not me
Catflying says: up to you lah.
E : anyway...u think i say wan to serve God then serve God ar
E : still got to go for classes and try out if suitable for 1yr lor
Catflying says: well, if that is your calling.
Catflying says: than god will take you in.
E : thats wat Chris said too
E : will see how it goes lah
E: God shall love me more that those ppl here
Catflying says: and I can only give you one advice.
Catflying says: you must love yourself.
Catflying says:
and not live by other people's standards
E : if i dont have to live with other ppl std
E : then y my mentor does not allow me to go travelling with a married guy
E : why does ppl have to gossip
Catflying says: if you even consider going travelling with a married guy. i think you have serious problems
E : initially i wanted to share hse with a guy from china
E : he is married but wife not here
E : my mentor scolded me like mad
E : travel only wat...not share a room lor
E : but ppl already talking lor
E :to him its more like.........if i trust him then why not
E : to me its more like .......we live in a society not vacuum
E : fainted lah
Catflying says: evelyn. sometimes you must get your values right
Catflying says: if you think travelling alone with a married man. whether or not u share a room or separately is ok. than by all means. go do it.
Catflying says: sometimes, i wonder whether you know why people gossip.
E : ppl have nothign better to do
Catflying says: hiyah. you are 34 this year. how to scold you?
Catflying says: you must really know how to think for yourself.
E : ok then the married man is older than me lor
E : he shd know how to think lor
E : then why still like tat
E : he shd not even have suggested
Catflying says: because, when things goes wrong. whose reputation is more at stake?
Catflying says: or even when things don't go wrong. whose reputation at stake?
Catflying says: people will only say you are stupid.
E : this is a very society problem
Catflying says: excuse me for my lango.
Catflying says: but than this is society.
E :why ppl only talk about the women
Catflying says: you go and ask other people
Catflying says: whether what I say is true or not
E : the man is equally stupid
Catflying says: we are still asians.
E : thats y i hated it
E : thats y i hated to be a women
Catflying says: hiyah. do what u think is correct.
E : i totally fed up
Catflying says: anyway, you are coming back soon.
Catflying says: so fed up will end.
E : USA society is not like that why the asian here still behave like that
E :my fed up will not end lor
E : bcos in S'pore the expecation of women is even higher
E : here i stay away from home and live a lone as a women
E : but in s'pore the expectation is differeent
E : expect to live with parents till get married
E : a lot of the expectations are just rubbish
E : and i'm very disappointed
E : perhaps i ve been here long at least 15mths now
E : i just cant stand having to live s'porean ways and asian culture
Catflying says: than don come back. stay in usa.
E : the problem is that asainl here also have same expectation of asian women
Catflying says: you are sounding very disillusioned.
E : yes extremely upset
E : upset over the gossip
E : bcos i find that it was really my life to live
E : i m not guilty then y ppl pronounce u guilty
Catflying says: than why care abt gossip.
Catflying says: just do wat u want.
Catflying says: as long u knwo you not guilty
E : yup gossip is the last thing to care but if it harm my career then different liao
E : my training mentor interfer then diff liao lor
E : she is our Asst director
Catflying says: so you upset that the gossip cost you not being able to go with the guy is it?
Catflying says: you sound like whining over not able to go.
E : got 1st gossip liao, u think i still dare to go
Catflying says: actually i think you better don talk to me abt it anymore
Catflying says: cos i think we have no common ground
E : yah ur stand will still be the same
Catflying says: exactly.
Catflying says: and i just can say, if you put yourself in that man's wife shoe.
Catflying says: how would u feel.
E : i would scold my hubby not the women
E : bcos he suggested
Catflying says: and if you see ur roommate doing the same thing.
Catflying says: would u go talk to her?
E : nope
Catflying says: or would u think its ok.
E : i leave it to my mentor
E : i'm not her judge
Catflying says: if you think its ok. than i think you can stop telling me abt all these.
Catflying says: its not a matter of judgement.
Catflying says: i think its common sense
E : there is another s'porean gal who is married also going out every wkend with other guys
E : but wat else can i say
E : ppl gossip i just keep quiet
Catflying says: and by writing that, u actually felt something aldy
E : my mentor give me a lot of pressure
E : and i dont like it bcos she is my Asst director
Catflying says: actually this is not v good on your career.
Catflying says: shows that you have no judgement at all.
E : yah
E : that gal already out of favor liao
E : mayb sent home soon
E : so its still the society issue
E : i tot only based on work performance
Catflying says: and if you think its a society issue.
Catflying says: than i think you better go join convent
Catflying says: than you would not be living in a society but in a nunnery
Catflying says: and than no such problems.
E : hahaha
Catflying says: agree?
E : going to lab now
E : sort of agree
Catflying says: ok bye!
Catflying says: take care.

Is she that dumb? I have only this much of patience.